When you have a digital presence online, you’ll probably receive a little hate or snark at some point. It’s inevitable. People hiding behind their screens, using anonymity to their advantage, making assumptions about your life. To be honest, I’ve often let the fear of negativity dictate what I’ve posted on social media. If I receive hundreds of positive feedback but one negative comment, that one bad remark has the potential to drag me down for days. For that reason, I’ve always been a little more private about my personal life on Instagram. But I’m finding that my pregnancy journey has really given me the opportunity to open up a little more.
My blog posts have become a little more intimate and raw – especially yesterday’s pregnancy skincare post where I shared an untouched acne photo. That being said, getting personal means occasional criticism in this space is a constant possibility. A few of you asked how to deal with negativity online, so I wanted to chat a little bit more about it in today’s Q&A post.
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It can be disheartening to see the amount of people who are quick to be unkind on social media. Online criticism is a way some people cope with things they are dealing with in their personal lives. Let’s be honest, if you’re having a crappy day and you see someone else posting about their success – it might be really difficult to feel genuinely happy for them. In fact, it can easily be a trigger for judgmental feelings and the need to voice them. Keep this in mind the next time you receive a negative comment! Instead of taking it to heart, remind yourself this person might be merely reflecting their personal frustrations that day.
I’ve learned that the best way to shrug off negativity, both on and offline, is to remove everyone else from the picture and focus internally. This means taking a break from the source of the negativity even if it’s your blog or Instagram. Creating boundaries and allowing yourself to implement acts of self-love will improve your confidence and outlook by tenfold. Whether it’s meditating, journaling, or wearing your favorite outfit, do something kind for yourself. Also, don’t forget to give yourself daily words of affirmation, and I promise words from a stranger won’t feel as harsh.
Lastly, another great way to combat negativity is to fight back with even more positivity. Kill ’em with kindness y’all! Respond directly to the person with something positive. Every time I’ve done this, they have responded with an apology. Instead of letting that one negative comment infiltrate your life and fester like a wound, be grateful there are so many loving people by your side, whether they exist in real life or online! Show your appreciation for them by continuing to do what you do – and project your own positivity into the world. After all, being cheerful and kind is really contagious and one can only hope the haters can learn from it!
I also want to just lightly touch on the subject of mom shaming that happens on social media. I know I’m just dipping my toes into baby and parent content, but it’s definitely something I’ve been thinking more about. (Especially having so much time at home to really dive into new blog topics.) Let’s all be kind and remember that there’s no one way to parent and that we all make mistakes along the way! I’m sure that I will 100% mess up and make mom mistakes. I always welcome suggestions from you guys for tips and tricks!
So far one mom trick that I have learned – stock up on as many comfy loungewear pieces as possible. This Jockey sleepshirt and waterfall cardigan are two pieces that have been so vital in my third trimester. I even got this same sleepshirt in navy to pack in my hospital bag. (It’s super soft and the snaps make it nursing friendly!) I wear this light-weight cardigan around the house ALL of the time over my pajamas. (Also posted about it here.) Will be sharing a ton more must-haves from Jockey that I packed in my hospital bag later this week!
How do you deal with criticism online?
Thank you to Jockey for partnering on today’s post! As always all opinions and product styling are my 0wn.
Photos by Lainey Reed